Title: Kid Confidence: Help Your Child Make Friends, Build Resilience, and Develop Real Self-Esteem
Author: Eileen Kennedy-Moore
As a mother, aunt, friend I am surrounded by kids pretty much every single day of my life. Being around kids of all ages and metal status I watch see which of the kids have confidence and which ones pretend to have confidence but struggle with negative talk or self doubt.
I am always looking for way to help my kids become confidant without putting others down or bring rude to those who didn't accomplish the same reward.
This book is a breath of fresh air. I am sick of children being reward for things they have not accomplished. This book will help parents feel confidant as they send their kids out into the world knowing they have a health self esteem that is based on who they are, their capabilities and their desires.
This book is a guide for kids as well to help their friends who might struggle with negative talk and self esteem issues.
That being said if you have a A typical kid this book might not be the best guide but it will have helpful information for you.
Thank you to netgalley and the publisher New Harbinger Publications for the advance copy of Eileen Kennedy-Moore Kid Confidence.
As parents, it’s heartbreaking to hear children say negative things about themselves. But as children grow older and begin thinking about the world in more complex ways, they also become more self-critical. Alarmingly, studies show that self-esteem, for many children, takes a sharp drop starting around age eight, and this decline continues into the early teen years. So, how can you turn the tide on this upsetting trend and help your child build genuine self-esteem?
With this guide, you’ll learn that self-esteem isn’t about telling kids they're “special.” It’s about helping them embrace the freedom that comes with a quiet ego—a way of being in the world that isn't preoccupied with self-judgment, and instead embraces a compassionate view of oneself and others that allows for both present awareness and personal growth. When kids are less focused on evaluating and comparing themselves with others, they are freer to empathize with others, embrace learning, and connect with the values that are bigger than themselves.
You’ll also discover how your child’s fundamental needs for connection, competence, and choice are essential for real self-esteem. Connection involves building meaningful and satisfying relationships that create a sense of belonging. Competence means building tangible skills. And choice is about being able to make decisions, figure out what matters, and choose to act in ways that are consistent with personal values. When children are able to fulfill these three basic needs, the question of “Am I good enough?” is less likely to come up.
If your child is suffering from low self-esteem, you need a nuanced parenting approach. Let this book guide you as you help your child create unshakeable confidence and lasting well-being.
Paperback, 240 pages
Expected publication: January 2nd 2019 by New Harbinger Publications
Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD, is an author, psychologist, and speaker, who specializes in parenting and children’s social and emotional development. Her approach is both gentle and practical. She's the author of an award-winning children’s book, What About Me? 12 Ways to Get Your Parents' Attention Without Hitting Your Sister (Parenting Press). She's also co-author of two books for parents: Smart Parenting for Smart Kids: Nurturing Your Child's True Potential (Jossey-Bass/Wiley) and The Unwritten Rules of Friendship: Simple Strategies to Help Your Child Make Friends (Little, Brown). Dr. Kennedy-Moore serves on the advisory board for Parents magazine and blogs for Psychology Today. She has a private practice in Princeton, NJ, where she works with adults, children, and families, and she often presents at schools and conferences.